But I do believe that in the midst of such difficult times there is a contribution that we can make. As the Apostle Paul says in the letter to the Corinthians, we can show "a more excellent way to live." We can demonstrate how to deal with differences while maintaining a sense of community. We can engage in deeply felt conflicts without destroying one another.

The Apostle Paul continues in that same letter to Corinthians to explain the more excellent way. He says, "If I speak in human or angelic tongues, but I am without love, I am a sounding brass and a clanging gong. I may have the gift of prophecy, and know every hidden truth; I may even have faith strong enough to move mountains; but if I have no love, I am nothing. If I dole out all my possessions, or even give my body to be burned, if I have no love, I am none the better. In a word," Paul says, "there are three things that last for ever: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of them all is love."

Yes, I believe the more excellent way is love. Now, not necessarily a warm fuzzy feeling, but a Godly respect; a respect born of an understanding that others in the community of faith are persons who are loved and received by God even though we may deeply disagree with them.

The Christian church has always had deep, divisive differences even since Bible times. The New Testament has many examples of profound conflict in the life of the church. As it is for us today, some things which divided the early church were about causation: this is when we seek to place blame for a terrible reality among us.

In the 9th chapter of John, Jesus and his disciples encounter a man who is blind. The disciples, drawing upon the popular theology of that time, asked Jesus, "Who sinned that this man was born blind, he or his parents?" Jesus replies, "His blindness is an opportunity for God to be glorified."

Like most ancient people the disciples did not understand dreaded conditions such as blindness, especially when such conditions happened at birth. Their theology considered blindness to be caused by sin - either the victim's sin or their parents' sins. But Jesus' reply to the disciples seems to say, "When the cause is not clear, what we can do is move beyond blame and minister in healing ways. This always glorifies God."

In the early years of the A.I.D.S. epidemic, I was a college chaplain. I often found that some deeply religious students were so paralyzed by the need to see A.I.D.S. as God's judgement upon homosexuals, that it was hard for them to minister to persons suffering with A.I.D.S. or to their families and friends. My concern was that God was not glorified in their need to blame. Love was absent. And love is what draws persons to God. And when we live on the premise of love, it has a way of smoothing the rough edges of our faith to fit more evenly into the graceful hands of God, where God can use us for God's greater glory.

Another example we might consider has to do with cultural and political issues. Christians, like the general public, are deeply divided on moral and political issues, issues such as abortion. But none of the issues in this category or the issues that are facing the contemporary church could have been more sensitive or more divisive than the issues of whether gentile Christians had to be circumcised and follow the Jewish Law. We must remember that the first Christians, like our Lord Jesus, were Jews. At this point in Church history, Christianity was seen as a Jewish sect or cult.

As Paul and others began preaching in gentile communities, more and more gentiles were believing in the Gospel. But these new gentile converts did not see the need to adhere to Jewish custom and law. Concerned leaders from the older Christian communities came to these new gentile converts and taught that they could not be Christians if they did not observe the Jewish law and be circumcised.

Now that the Christian Church is predominantly a gentile church, this may seem like a trivial matter. But it was a bitterly divisive issue, and it gave rise to strong political feelings about who was a traditionalist and who was a liberal, or who was orthodox and who was a heretic. Today it would be like suggesting that one could be a Christian without requiring baptism. This was a strong controversy with the traditional side led by St. Peter and St. James and the other side led by St. Paul and St. Barnabas. But what impresses me most in the scriptural account in Acts is that the opponents were referred to as "believers." Even though they were painfully at odds, there was an assumption that persons with opposing views could be believers.

As it is today, the issues and debates in the early church were many. But what seems to be clear as one reads the New Testament is that the church's most important witness is not whether it is pro or con, but that it is able to sustain itself as a community in times of significant differences. Of course this has not always been true of the church. At times we have fought wars, burned people at the stake, and we have divided. But, when commitment to love has been true, the church has been at its best and God has been glorified.

On the other hand, when our society is at its best it is often striving to be tolerant. How often have you heard someone say, "You must be more tolerant." This may be the most an unredeemed world can hope for. However, I find that toleration can sometimes be nothing more than managed hostility. The polarization, bitterness and anger we see in our world have not only to do with the seriousness of the issues we face, but that we feel we can no longer manage our hostility towards those with differing views.

However, the Christian faith calls us to a higher, "more excellent way" than simply toleration. It calls us to hospitality; in the Greek it is, "zenophilia," meaning fraternal respect for the one who is different. Respect takes the position: We may differ on this issue but I acknowledge that you are a person of faith - a Christian - an errant one, perhaps, but a Christian.

I am the eldest of three very strong willed boys in my family. When I was growing up, we had all of the fights and arguments you can imagine of rambunctious boys. Sometimes our disagreements would get so intense we would go to mother to have our righteous indignation ratified. She would often say to us, "You boys go back and resolve it, but remember you are brothers."

"But Mom," we'd say, "he took my ball!"

"Mom, he said I was a liar."

"Mom, he broke the rules."

But she would always say, "You boys go back and resolve it and remember, you are brothers." It was eventually clear to us that what was most important to Mother was that we behave in such a way that demonstrated our bond as brothers. This was even more important to her than our resolution, which she also expected.

I think this is what God says to the church. "I know you have differences, but you must struggle to resolve them as brothers and sisters. This is what I expect of you because you are my children."

Jesus said it this way in the Gospel of John, "By this, everyone will know you are my disciples, if you have love one for another."

Love, or having Godly respect for one another, does not suggest that we ignore our differences; respecting one another includes acknowledging sincerely held differences. Love means committing ourself to the messy, frustrating and exhausting work of resolution but doing so without destroying one another and community.

Our convictions are important, especially convictions of faith. A community which lacks convictions, even differing convictions, lacks integrity. But on the other hand, conviction without respect for community is simply blind passion and easily becomes abusive and destructive. The answers to deeply complex matters are never in political resolve but in the hard, prayerful work of consensus building among faithful people. In a community the goal is never political victory but the preservation of Christian mission and witness.

But what a crucial witness we can be to the world to testify that there is a more excellent way to deal with the issues which divide us. Yes, this work is hard and we will make some mistakes and we will have some failures in the process. But I believe that God is more pleased by the witness we make in struggling to love and respect one another than the battles we wage to gain political victories.

There is a more excellent way and Christians are called to live it. For the example of how we deal with our differences can be a vital contribution to a polarized society.

Lydia Talbot: Rev. Baxter, Dean of the sixth largest cathedral in the world, you must tell us first how much more it is than bricks and mortar.

Nathan Baxter: Well, it's a marvelous ministry in itself. I often say to our staff that the Cathedral itself - the walls, the carving, the stained glass, the artistry - it ministers to people even without a sermon or a liturgy. And the wonderful experience that we observe - when we see the hundreds of thousands of tourists who come and are so moved by the spirit of God through the stones and the artistry, and you see them reflecting quietly. You see them often kneeling. Others in tears. Others with smiles of ecstasy. It is indeed a ministry in and of itself.

Talbot:  As you say, it transforms tourists into pilgrims, if you will.

Baxter: It does.

Talbot: Now your message earlier is based so much in many of your writings that center on the difference between community and individualism, that tension in American culture today. How do you manage the hostility that you talk about? How do you do it?

Baxter: Well, I think perhaps the first step is realizing that there are many things in one's life that seem sacrosanct and when we are challenged to rethink them, it does cause anger. It seems that today there are so many issues before us that it's hard to keep focused on all the issues that are being challenged and the things that are changing around us, and very often we describe unanchored anger as hostility, and I think that recognizing that that is the kind of environment that we live in and how it affects us is the first step. And then from there realizing that we only grow, we only are able to stay in a sense of God's grace, when we stay engaged with other people of faith. And so that's one of the things that's so important to me is to stay engaged with the faith community, that that helps me to grow and to move into a greater sense of hospitality.

Talbot: And so the rationale for the faith community. But you spoke about your Mother in the message earlier and I have a sense that your Mother was a magnificent influence on your capability in coming to terms with anger in this society, injustice, victimization perhaps. Was the church part of that in your childhood as well?

Baxter: It was indeed. My mother and father are both ministers. My father is an ordained minister and my mother has been a lay minister for many years and we grew up - the church and faith were very much a part of our lives. And I have to say that it was also true in our home that our parents understood that faith was important and though it was not always a preachy kind of thing, there was joy and respect and love that gave us strength to meet the many challenges in our lives. So, yes, faith as well as loving parents were a special gift, a privilege that we had in our lives.

Talbot: Faith, hope and love, and you must as you talk about the message - a more excellent way - discover that love was the message long ago.

Baxter: It really sustains us through times when hope fails us and we live in a hopeless time and when our faith is not always as clear as we would like for it to be. Love does sustain us.